Then He Loves You December 22, 2008
Posted by brandy in hello universe? I love you, i love fragment sentences, it makes sense to me, love or something like it, man I'm such a girl, men, this one might be my favourite.trackback
If he always gives you the last bite of his sandwich or the first lick of his ice cream cone, then he loves you.
If he’s seen your high school yearbook photo and says he still loves you, then he loves you.
If he’s counted all your freckles,- even the ones behind your knees, then he loves you.
If, right before sleep, he leans in, buries his nose in your hair and inhales, and when you ask what he’s doing, he smiles a smile that reminds you of a secret and says ‘nothing’, then he loves you.
If he tells you that you make chickenpox sexy, then he loves you. He’s lying, but he loves you.
If he’s laid beside you in a too small bed, in a too dark room and listened as you told him all the ways you feel like you are failing, then he loves you.
If he remembers the name of your arch enemy from the sixth grade and hates her because he knows all about how she started the rumor that you only used boys deodorant, when you didn’t– then he loves you. And he hates her. But he loves you.
If he’s ever attempted to wash your hair because you said that scene in “Out of Africa” really gets you, then he loves you.
If he makes sure that you never have to sit beside his friend Dominic, the one who never washes his hair, calls his penis “Frankie the Pork Sword” and smells like the bottom of a dumpster, then he loves you.
If you are Salma Hayek, then he loves you.
If he’s consumed your mom’s burnt chicken, let your brother win the basketball game and laughed too long and too hard at your dad’s jokes, then he loves you.
If he told you how hard he cried when his dog childhood dog died, then he loves you. Or, he’s made up the story to get into your pants. But he could love you.
If he tells you, “I don’t know how to fix this, but I want to”, then he loves you.
If he sits through “The Hills” every Monday night, then he loves you. And possibly Heidi. But he loves you.
If during hour five of an eight hour roadtrip, he sees you are bored and flips the radio station to a horrifying boy band song and begins to serenade you with his best falsetto, while keeping the beat with his hand tapping your knee, and refuses to quit until you laugh, then he loves you.
If he’s ever bought you tampons, then he loves you.
If, while vertical, sober, and full clothed, and without hope or agenda, he tells you that he loves you, then he loves you.
If he knows exactly what scene in “The Bridges of Madison County” make you cry the hardest, and he waits until the movie is over before he begins to make fun of you for crying in the first place, then he loves you.
If his favourite stories are the ones of you as a kid, if he calls you ‘my girl’ in front of his friends, if he remembers that you like the kleenex with the lotion in it, if he lets you eat his french fries when you know they are his favourite, if he makes small talk with your grandmother when you can’t deal with her crazy, if he tells you that your cute victory dance is worth his own defeat, if he checks the road conditions before you leave for a trip, if he’s ever attempted to sew a button on your favourite dress when you are running late, then he loves you.
If he’s ever fallen asleep holding your hand, then he loves you. Of course he loves you.
Wishing a love like this for you this holiday season and all the days after.
Inspired by this.
It's like I'm... mmmagic! 
this is beautiful. it makes me miss having someone who loves me.
BEST. POST. EVER.
you killed it.
i love it.
MUAH.
So beautiful. Here here! =)
This post was amazing.. absolutley loved it.
Yes. Just yes.
I love being called “my girl” but only one boy has ever done that. He’s special in my heart for that (and many other things- many on this list, actually).
You’re right. This is probably one of your VERY BEST. And that’s hard to do since you’re awesome all the damn time.
🙂
So I was going to comment about this post (because it’s a goodie…especially the one about cyring over his dead childhood dog…it made me snort-laugh), but I was sidetracked by one of those “possibly related posts” that always display before the comments. One of them is titled “Harry Potter Grows Older and Darker.” And it made me go back and reread your post to see if there is some kind of mention of our favourite boy wizard. And there’s not. So I wonder…how is that related to this post?
The end of this one just about made me cry.
And I know someone who made up a “crying-over-a-dead-animal” story to get into someone’s pants. WORST PERSON EVER.
Aww, I love this.
This is great – so much better than the original and not just cuz it’s a girl writing about a boy either.
Anyway it made me cry because it took me almost 50 years to find someone who did this stuff, who really loves me.
This is brilliant… also, I’m a lucky sonova. And I know it.
🙂
What if he watches Grey’s Anatomy, America’s Next Top Model and Desperate Housewives with you?
not that I do… just asking… for a friend…yeah… a friend…
This was awesome!!
I love it. I think the only one I’d add is …
If he laughs at your farts until tears come out of his eyes, then he loves you.
brilliant brandylu.
this, and the one that you linked back to both made me tear up. in a good way.
I read this list last week (the original) and thought about concocting my own, but yours is pretty brilliant & well done.
you are a lucky girl, and he is an even luckier man!
Thank You! This is truly… incredible.
*of course he loves me* :o)
love this. it made me all weepy. 🙂 especially the last one.
Oh my God. Beautiful.
Meeeeeeeeeeeeelt!!!
Oh goddammit this made me cry.
Amazing! Loved this times 10!
Wonderful. 🙂 I had read the original last week but it’s so nice to read a personal one 🙂
One of mine would be: if he sees that the Wizard of Oz is on but you do not and he slyly switches the channel and watches you from the corner of his eyes with a big old grin on his face as you realize he’s sacrificing watching SportsCenter so you can watch your favorite movie, even though it has commercials, even though you own the special, special edition of, just b/c it’s on and then sing “If I were the King of the Forest” to you better than Bert Lahr (in your own opinion) to make you giggle before you drift off to a peaceful sleep in his arms, then he loves you 🙂
The husband did that for me last night and it made my heart melt a wee bit.
Great post… and so true! My heart fluttered just a little when reading it…
Between you and watching Love Actually on Saturday, I’m a big gooey mess. But that’s alright, because it makes me happy. And I’m happier now than I’ve ever been 🙂
I loved the other one but I think, honestly, that this one is even better it captures the tiny intimate moments.
I want to say something mean and snarky, but then I realize that I shouldn’t drag others in to my depression.
This is a lovely post and I promise that I will reread it when I am in a better mood.
I do hope that you and I, and all of your other readers find a love like this!
*sigh*
I’m crying.
No, really, I am.
You’ve outdone yourself my love.
That is such an amazingly great post, thank you!
Thank you!!! And the same wish goes out to you as well!!
lovely.
this just made me all warm and fuzzy. i love it!
This is so sweet. It made me think about being in high school and dreaming about what it would feel like to have a boyfriend one day. If only they could all have every trait you listed here!!
Very sweet.
Although I know no one wants to listen to me recap random moments in my life, I would like to share that I got the chickenpox last year while visiting my boyfriend (he was in college at the time). He spent a significant amount of time tending to my hideous spots, and even got up with me at four in the morning because I was miserable and crying to sit with me while I had an oatmeal bath.
That’s love. Or maybe just extreme patience.
When he likes staring at you…and you catch him doing it across the room at a party or when you are sitting next to each other and it’s so intent you’re almost uncomfortable…because you know what it means.
such a sweet post. i love it. love love.
I love this.
when you can sit and not talk and just enjoy each others company.. then he loves you
That was simply beautiful!
I LOVE this post…it made me tear up a little when I realized I have *this* (or at least my version of it)
If he grumbles about making a pit-stop at Starbucks on a rainy drive home, says he doesn’t want anything and then drinks most of your chai latte in “1 sip”, then he loves you 🙂
i would like to nominate this post for your “Favorite of the Year” award.
thanks. xoxo.
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did you ever consider that maybe he loves you even though he doesn;t do any of that??? 🙂
If he takes you to London for your birthday, he loves you.
If he writes you a fairytale about a flawed prince who falls in love with a beautiful princess, he loves you.
If he tries to surprise you with tickets to see Michael Buble and accidentally buys Nelly Furtado tickets…and then takes you anyway, he loves you.
If (even long after you’ve broken up) he sends you a toaster and a coffeemaker because he heard yours broke and he knows you won’t buy yourself new ones, he loves you.
If he gives you an iPod Shuffle stocked with all his favorite love songs, he loves you.
If he starts up a blog specifically to write love letters to you, he loves you.
If he spends a day touring old Navy ships with your dad, he loves you.
If he is in Hong Kong and emails you photos of knock-off handbags from a street market so you can choose the ones you want, he loves you.
If he gets hooked on Project Runway because he adores your love for fashion, he loves you.
If he spends hours at work designing an elaborate Powerpoint presentation filled with photos of the two of you, he loves you.
If he won’t give up after not hearing a word from you for months and months, he loves you.
If he posts a comment on someone else’s blog (because he thinks you might read it) to tell you he will always love you, hates what’s happened, and wishes you’d talk to him, he loves you.
He made the bed even though you were the last in it.
He holds off on the courthouse wedding because your mother is so unhappy with him and your faux marriage in Mexico that he wants to win her over with a big expensive wedding she’ll have to pay for.
I think everybody should write these. Everybody go right now and write one of these.
My favourite is the one about sewing a button onto a dress.
I will add, if he bakes you cookies during exams and just drops them off, does’t stick around to talk because he doesn’t want to distract you (to be honest, you don’t want the distraction. Just the cookies). Then he loves you.
If his mom sends you a get well soon card when you have surgery, then he loves you.
Whoops I mixed up email and URL
If he tells you, “I don’t know how to fix this, but I want to”, then he loves you. <——– I like this one the best and yes, this means he really loves you. Awesome list.
This is a great list – your blog is great!!!
sigh. i love this. happy holidays.
This was SO awesome to read for a night like this. (X’mas eve where I am). Thanks so much for this Brandy. So simple, yet so true.
My favourite was the end – where he sews the button onto the dress while you’re running late. I just. It’s just.
Ah, speechless.
Loved it. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year 🙂
Here’s one I learned from E…
If he’s always practicing his cut serve because he says he can’t ask your dad for your hand until he can beat him at ping pong, then he loves you.
Merry Holidays!
I’ve learnt that all she has to do is exist to make me happy. Knowing she is in the world and in my life is wonderful enough.
Also, I’m willing to sacrifice pretty much anything to help ensure her happiness.
So sweet.
Merry Christmas honey! This is adorably sweet 🙂
Hopefully next year I will have something that wonderful!
If he lets you read all his Maxim magazines before he even looks at them,
If he doesn’t mind that you build a snowman instead of helping to shovel the driveway,
If he spoons you and makes happy sigh sounds in his sleep,
Then he loves you.
Great post.
You rock. As I’m still recovering from horribly timed, too little, too late “I’m sorry” text from my ex on Christmas Eve, this brought a smile to my face… thanks. (:
I love it! This is perfect on so many levels.
Is it sad/sappy that I found myself nodding my head along with these?
Wow, I’m swooning.
And you should NEVER let him go.
(and I’m a dork for being happy to put a checklist next to some of these)
Incredibly sweet … 🙂
So lovely!
Oh. Love.
More, please.
I may have my days where I can’t stand being single any more, but I would much rather hold out for a man who does all these things and more than settle for just blah.
Girl who hated you in elementary school? Try boy who tortured you in 8th grade and that you still have to see at weddings…then have boy who loves you say, “Man, when I saw that guy, I really felt like punching him,” especially when that boy is otherwise quite the pacifist.
Great list! It sounds like you’ve been loved :).
I NEVER leave comments on blogs, usually because I’m reading at work and can’t, but I feel compelled to leave a comment on this post.
I am by no means a woman who is considered to be a romantic, but this post made me all warm and fuzzy inside. I too, was mentally checking off the list as I read, plus adding a few of my own in relation to my boyfriend. This just might be my favorite blog post I have ever read. I loved it.
This warmed my blackened heart. Sooo sweet!
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you made me cry!!!!
🙂
If you are Salma Hayek, then he loves you.
(laughing)
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE? Your my new best friend and you don’t even know it.
*you’re
aaawww….
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I LOVE this.
Also, if he’s willing to give you a shot in the ass on the chance it might help you make a baby together, then he loves you.
i freaking love this!!
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I have read this one … a couple of times… yes… I have been reading your blog for some days now.. 🙂 i m not much into posting comments..as I usually read at work…
The reason for posting one today could be because of some things that have been recently happening in my life and have been breaking my heart teriibly…
This list makes me want to be patient and hold out till I find a guy who would actually do even some of those things for me..:)
sigh…
lots of love and happiness to you… 🙂
well then in all my 29 years no one has ever loved me.
I feel like I just read an excerpt from a Nicholas Sparks book.
This is why women run home crying from failed relationships, because there are girls who truly believe that when guys love you, they love in this specific manner, and that simply is not true.
This is an awesome post, makes me realize how much my bf loves me, he does all this and lots more for me. I feel so lucky ^ _^