“I tell people it’s a bottle tan but it’s really the tanning bed. I lie because my aunt died of skin cancer.” July 12, 2009
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1. I have a friend that I’ve known for 10 years, and I want to cut off our friendship because everything we plan, revolves around her boyfriend. She’s been hurt by men, so she’s possessive with him and she can’t stand to be away from him for more than a few hours (like while she’s at work). She’s having a hard time just coming to visit me and take a weekend vacation. Her boyfriend is a complete loser and I wish she was dating someone better. I always call her but she never calls me, and the friendship is completely one-sided, it’s so annoying. I’ve been as nice as possible about this but I think I’ve hit my breaking point.
2. I love my husband, but sometimes I feel its more of an addiction.
3. I failed one of my grad classes last semester and I have to re-take the class. I’m too embarrassed to admit it to anyone because I feel like a failure.
4. Two months ago, I didn’t know he existed. If he proposed tomorrow, I’d say yes.
5. The uproar over the secret TMI confession just confirmed to me that blogging is like high school and everyone has a clique. And what troubled me (and some of the bloggers I talked to about it) wasn’t the original idea of someone not liking a particular kind of post- but the bandwagon that followed. It made me sad that those people who were decrying the ‘hate’ of the confession spread it themselves. (I fully expect people to hate this comment even if I mean no disrespect or am confessing this with any malice towards anyone).
6. My fiance thinks he is fantastic in bed but the truth is, I fake it more often than not.
7. My parents would die if they knew my boyfriend and I had sex in their bathroom on the fourth. Let me say this, the best fireworks were definitely not outside. 
8. I’m a mom and cannot stand reading mom blogs. I enjoy reading the writing of people living the lives I don’t have, instead of reading the writing of people who are on the same page as me.
9. I cannot poop at work or at my boyfriend’s place. I will not sleepover at his house because I will need to go home to the bathroom. I feel like such a freak.
10. I’ve booked three summer holidays, just lost my job and have no idea how I’m going to pay for it all. I’m thinking about applying for another credit card because the idea of sitting in the city alone while my friends are all traveling is far more depressing to me than having even more credit card debit.
I’m glad I have no idea what #5 is talking about. I imagine blog drama to be even worse than real-life drama.
(6) There’s always room for improvement; maybe you could try teaching him a few things? Good luck
Oh I can so feel number 3 and 5.
I never admit what I retake because ill graduate late when most of the people in my class already do. I feel like a failure and I don’t want the world to see it too.
And blogging so has cliques. It’s so hard to fit in. And what you say can be taken by other bloggers and their cliques way too seriously.
Damn, I missed the uproar about TMI Thursdays. This is why I need to stay on top blogs like I did in 2008.
#4 – I could have written that. It’s amazing and I’m just enjoying every minute of it.
I guess I’m not a cool kid because I don’t know what #5 is talking about either. But as someone who USED to do the tanning bed thing, doing the bottle tan SUCKS and being not tan SUCKS! But I’m doing it….
i failed out of college after my freshman year, granted i didn’t really want to be there anyway and i never tried, but i’m not embarrassed about it. all of my friends will be graduating next year and i’m still okay with never having had the college experience. maybe i’ll go back, maybe i won’t. not everyone can do the same thing in the same amount of time, some people take longer, and vice versa. people fail all the time, it’s bound to happen. you can’t let one failure ruin the rest of your life, at least the second time around you’ll know more of what’s coming. it’s all experience anyway.
I went back to see what #5 was talking about. Unfortunately the situation can go both ways. No one forced the TMI hater to read the posts & like them, but the same can be said of the people that hated on her. If you have the freedom to write posts that may bother/offend/annoy someone then someone has the same write to do the same to you.
Whatever.
Number 10–don’t do it! It will NOT be worth it in the long run. Maybe you can find a shorter, more affordable vacation you can take a little closer to home that won’t create additional debt for you. Like if you have a friend in a nearby city so you can stay for free?
#6 – stop faking it. today. talk to him about it – admit you’ve been faking and that you want to figure out what works for BOTH of you before you get married. i had to have the same convo w/ my boyfriend early on in our relationship, and believe me, while it’s really hard to get up the nerve, you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with someone who can’t give you an orgasm! that’s a recipe for marital disaster, imho….
#6 — thank God I’m not alone. I don’t fake it, but I look at my boyfriend who I may very well marry and think “is this it?!” The commenters are right though, you have to do some teaching and all that — but I’ve tried that and it’s no silver bullet. The bedroom is a constant work in progress, and amazingly not always a fun one
Will you get sick of me telling you every single week that I LOVE that you do this? Because I do. And I’ll probably keep telling you this.
#1 – I’m at the same breaking point with a girl who used to be my best friend. She’s in the midst of the most destructive relationship, and our friendship has turned completely one-sided, with her only calling if they’ve had a fight, and she needs a place to stay. I want to be there for her, because I know how amazing she is, but it hurts to watch her disregard what everyone says, and return time and time again to such a horrible relationship. I miss her, and I want my best friend back.
#5 – Just ignore the drama. You can’t make it go away, but you can choose whether or not it bothers you. That’s what I learned to do in high school, and that’s what I do now when others get overly dramatic. It’s amazing how well it works – even with family and coworkers.
Mom blogs are the worst! I can’t stand them either. And I’m so glad I have no clue what #5 is talking about. I’ve been in some internet drama and it’s never good.
I’m so glad that #5 didn’t cause you to stop this series!
I totally get #1- I’ve had those same issues with a friend myself…
Oddly, once they got married they were both a million times better and less needy.
xo
….and one more thing. I just want to say that I agree with #8…somewhat. As a mom that blogs there is a HUGE difference between us normal sane people that blog & just happen to be moms and those MOMMYbloggers *shudder* Give every blogger a chance, I hate to think that people won’t read me just because I have the word “Mom” & a pic of me with my daughter in the header……
I can totally relate to #3. I failed out of college my second year, took a semester of community (junior) college, then transferred to an even better (and cheaper) school.
I graduate next spring.
Blogging can be like high school. #5 has a solid point there. Blogging is for various opinions even if we don’t agree tolerance of difference is a must.
Pooper, I’m with you! I can’t poop ANYWHERE other than my own house. I also cannot poop when someone is over my place.
#9 – I suggest finding a way to get over it (be it therapy or something else); bathroom phobias like that have the potential to be really intrusive in one’s life. That said, you have my sincerest sympathies – phobias stink!!!
#10 – grow up.
i missed these posts!
Wow, apparently I missed out on some juicy blogging drama. I don’t even know what this TMI post business is all about – where have I been? Ah, well.
#4 totally made me giddy. Uh-dorable.
@#6 Do not marry a man you are sexually incompatible with. You can never fix it. Never, ever. It will always be bad, and you deserve to have a happy, fulfilling sex life. At the very least, stop faking it and start talking about what you need from him in order to get there. He’ll be offended at first and hurt that you’ve lied to him, but he’ll probably get over it. Bad sex causes all of the little things that bug you about a person to grow gigantic. Good sex causes all the little things to stay little.
OMG…..my favorite is the one about the bottle tan really being a tanning bed….totally hysterical!