In Defense of Lurking November 22, 2007
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I have something to say.
And I don’t think you are going to like it.
I’m a lurker.
That’s right- I lurk. I often read without commenting. It feels good to say that.
A few months ago, it was ‘World De-Lurking Day’. I missed it (I think I was still in a West Wing induced haze and high on the “I love you Josh” feeling that had swept over me and refused to let me go), but went back later to read the posts that people put up regarding this monumental day. People wrote about how lurking is insensitive, how it’s weird to write something and know people are reading it without responding, how a comment to say you’ve read the post really does mean a lot.
And for the most part, I get it. (I should, I once created my own ‘De-lurking Day‘, before I knew that the blogging world had already met at a Starbucks and picked a day without telling me). But part of me, has to say, I love the lurking. (And if a creepier sentence has ever been uttered, let me know).
I don’t lurk because I’m being insensitive. Sometimes I don’t leave a comment because I don’t feel like I have a comment to add. Or that I have nothing new to say. (I find this especially true when I’m the 67th commenter on a particular post.). Sometimes I don’t comment because I don’t have the right words to describe what I want to say. Sometimes I don’t comment because I don’t want to share my comment with the entire blog world. Sometimes I don’t comment because the post (however wonderful it often is) doesn’t leave a lot to comment on.
It’s easy to imagine how someone who just comments could feel like this. But I write too, so is it possible to feel the same way, that sometimes a comment isn’t necessary, or more accurately- it’s understandable when people don’t comment when I’m the one writing it? Absolutely. I think that’s why I’m getting more comfortable shutting the comments off on some posts. There are some pieces of writing where there’s nothing to say, or where I don’t feel like comments need to be on.
Now, don’t think I’ve always been this relaxed about comments. There was a time not so long ago, that shutting comments off or not getting comments would have been THE WORST THING EVER, equal to finding myself stuck in an elevator knee deep in snakes, forced to listen to S-Club 7 on repeat. I think it was only when I started getting comments that I started to really WANT them. And the more I wrote, the more comments I got, and this little cycle left me feeling happier than a school girl asked to the dance.
But then a funny thing happened, I realized that once you start getting what you want, you sometimes don’t NEED it anymore. Don’t get me wrong, I will always love hearing from you all, if there’s something that I write that hits close to your heart, if you disagree with my stance on Josh Lyman being one of the sexiest fictional characters of all time (swoon!), if you just want to tell me I’m a fool. But if you read without commenting, I like you just the same- I promise. You won’t find me putting up another post denouncing lurking, or begging for a comment.
I started writing because I had an hour to kill before I went to the new James Bond film, not for comments. Then I fell under the spell of comments and found that my joy came less from what I wrote and more from how many people left their url on my site. Now, I’m finding my way back. If you are finding something here worth reading, I’m happy. Regardless if you lurk or de-lurk, I’ll be writing.
Probably about The West Wing. But still, it counts.
That’s good to know that the comment count thing goes away - I hope it does soon…that shouldn’t be my primary reason for blogging…but I get sucked in…
I couldn’t agree with you more Brandy. And I’m glad I’m comment number too, because I too, by the time it gets high up in the comments, often just… don’t, because I can only say “ditto” so many times. It is easy to get sucked in, like Teri said- I think most of us as bloggers have felt that before. But it’s important to remember that many of us started this for ourselves, for the writing of it all, not the comments and such. That’s just a really swell side piece to it all, no doubt. I mean, look at all the great people we meet through this way! But I totally hear what you’re saying and now I feel like I’m repeating myself so I’ll stop.
I’m with you - sometimes there’s just nothing more to say, and so I just keep my mouth shut!
I lurk, but I try to leave a comment when appropriate, when I need to say something in response to a good/moving/funny or otherwise interesting post. You are really witty, I love your sense of humor. Even if I never commented, I would continue to read for sure.
I think that what you wrote is something every blogger goes through. Getting comments definitely puts you on a high that only comments can do. I think that it’s important to step away from that because the high number of comments aren’t always going to be there and soon you’ll find yourself only thinking to write posts that you think will get the most number of comments and abandoning post ideas that you may want to write but you’ll feel are either too personal or just not a grand enough idea to win you the comment overload you may desire. So good for you for pulling back. You’re an incredible writer and your commenters will be here, not for what you write, but rather how you write it. Either way I think you’ve got your loyal following down.
Comments are an interesting thing. For the most part I like them, but at this point, I have a pretty small readership, so it seems more like a close group of friends that comment on the blog. At the core, though, I still write for me, as you write your blog for yourself, so whether there are comments on a post or not is unimportant in the greater scheme of things.
That said, I appreciate the fact that you’re lurking about, and hope you’ll continue writing from the heart here, not never for the comments.
I must admit I am a lurker….I love this blog and eagerly tune in most every day so see if you’ve posted anything new. Your sense of humour is fabulous!
I lurk a lot and hope that nobody minds… Truly, I sometimes don’t have anything useful to say, that’s why I shut up. I don’t mind lurkers on my blog.
I’ll admit, I lurk. Sometime I just don’t feel like leaving comments. But I still like reading the posts
ah, Josh - and you are right about it being the character that is sexy. the actor? not so much. But Josh? totally swoon-worthy
p.s. like how I totally ignored the point of this post? got distracted by all the West Wing talk … and am ever so happy that “Sam” is back in politics, even if he is now a Republican and marrying Ally McDitz, but whatever
I completely understand…I lurk often
I guess Ijust feel like if I don’t get comments, no one must be reading my blog. And then I don’t blog for a week or so. Or check other blogs…what can I say, I’m sensitive.
Anyway, I will always read a good West Wing/Josh Lyman post. How could I not?
ah, what the hell, i’ll de-lurk. i found your blog about a month ago and i’ve gotta say that i love it. often times i find myself lurking on a lot of blogs, and even though i’ll have a comment, i’ll still keep it to myself.
even if i don’t de-lurk again, i’ll still be reading whatever it is you have to write. keep it up.
i’d like to say that i’m currently moving away from the josh phase and into the new-guy-replacing-rob-lowe phase. also, the other day, just for fun, i changed my facebook profile to Josh Lyman. 8 PEOPLE ADDED ME AS FRIENDS!!!
hello people - fictional character.
(no offence if you were one of them).
I “lurk” on several sites, too. And sometimes on ones where I might usually have a comment. I figure the commenting is always the optional part. Like reading the newspaper and writing a letter to the editor. You don’t have to do it every time, and it probably makes more sense not to. I think sometimes we get less out of things if we feel like we have to give an immediate reaction.
Teri- Yeah,.. I think it goes away for everyone, but I don’t know. I just know it went away for me. I think, it sounds nuts to say, but you can get so… ‘into’ getting comments that you start to lose what you really want to say and cater to what you think people want to hear. And maybe not everyone agrees with this, but writing what you think people want to hear, gets exhausting. So does checking your site meter everyday to see if your readership is up or down. But, like I said, I do understand how it’s possible to get ’sucked in’. Who knows, maybe I will get ’sucked in’ again at some point. I hope not though.
brookem- Yep, that’s exactly it. It always amazes me, how so many turn to writing to for so many different reasons and yet almost everyone at one time gets caught up in ‘how many people are reading? who is leaving comments? how many comments are people leaving?’. Maybe we all just want to make sure we are getting heard? Wow. That’s so… cheesey. I think I need to go lay down for a minute and reflect on how much Oprah I’ve been watching lately.
Bre- Exactly friend, exactly.
Nic Dee- I understand the urge to only leave a comment on a post that truly does something for you, I feel like that sometimes. Thanks for your kind words!!
Airam- Yep, you totally get it. Especially the idea that not every post is going to be one that people love, that is going to get the zillion comments your heart desires. I sometimes think though, before I post , ‘is this something I would want to read?’, and there have been times I haven’t posted something based solely on the fact what I’m about to publish is boring as hell. (Sidenote- why do people say that ‘boring as hell’? I do not think hell would be boring, or maybe that’s what makes hell, ‘hell’… the idea that it would be boring?)
geekhiker- I understand that, the whole idea that you have a small readership, and that leaves you content. I think you just said what I was trying to say. I feel like… I’m so lucky that I have a small group that I know will leave a comment, and that’s good enough. If more people comment, that’s fun and exciting (I love finding new blogs by people who leave a comment), but at the same time, I’m not worried if I don’t get new readers/commenters all the time.
Crystal- Wow, thanks! If there’s one thing I do love, it’s a compliment. I’m glad that you find stuff you enjoy reading..
Katrin- Well, my dear, I don’t mind. So lurk to your hearts content. And sometimes I start writing a comment and then feel ‘this isn’t really that great to leave’, so I will delete it. So I get what you are saying.
Michelle- I get that. I soooo get that.
Kathryn- I know! IT’s funny that if you think Josh Lyman, I think HOT!, but if you think of Bradley Whitford, I think.. ‘TALENTED’, and not really hot. I guess it has to do with the fact that we don’t know if Bradley is so take charge and smart as the character he plays? Oh, and I do that all the time, post a comment that has absolutely nothing to do with the writing above it. (I feel like I do this a lot on brookems page…). Anyway, yes I’m glad Rob Lowe is back but the Republican part always catches me. It’s like, Sam is playing a joke by acting Republican. And then I have to remember, his name isn’t really Sam. Eep.
appletini- I like to hear that! Lurkers of the world, unite.
Cheryl- That’ s understandable. I used to feel the same way. Then when I moved to wordpress I was better able to see how many ‘hits’ a day my blog was getting. Granted, some are spam and some are people who come here looking for something else, but there’s still a few who set up shop and read without commenting. So, I try to be more mindful of the fact regardless if people leave comments or not, they are reading. But, like I said, I do understand the feeling of looking and thinking no one is reading because the comments aren’t high. As for the Josh Lyman love, I’m glad I can count on you!
AlieMalie- Oh thanks for stopping in! And the keeping the comment to yourself is something I find I’m doing more and more. Maybe it’s because I’m getting tired of typing? I feel carpal tunnel setting in…
HC- Whoa seriously? See, I love Josh Lyman, but he’s not a reason why I would be friends with someone on facebook. As for the ‘guy who replaces rob lowe’, are you thinking of Will Bailey? Who is played by Josh Malina? I sort of liked him in the beginning, his way with words was quite charming. But when he went to work for the VP, I lost interest. You shouldn’t turn your back on Bartlet.
justrun- “I think sometimes we get less out of things if we feel like we have to give an immediate reaction”- I couldn’t agree more friend.
Often times, I find I don’t comment because I’m on my reader and am just going on through posts. Or sometimes I feel like my comment isn’t important or no one really cares what I think so I don’t comment.
I find I write because my site is a good outlet. I think its hilarious and awesome that people take time out of their day to comment on my ridiculous ramblings because I often don’t make sense!
No shame in lurking! Its not like commenting is a requirement.
I hear ya with your view on comments. I just started getting steady comments, and then when I write a post and no one comments.. its like the biggest disappointment ever! Did I offend someone or something? I analyze things way too much.
Plus, i got LESS comments on delurking day! So sad.. so sad..
I can identify with a lot of the above sentiments. Also, I would think that the comment means more if you know someone only comments when they feel they really have something to say…
I get caught up in it too. How many comments did I get? Why did THAT post get so few and THAT post so many?
Any I’m a blogrolling whore…I get excited whenever I find someone has linked me. It’s become an illness really…
…I really like reading your blog Brandy!
I’m trying to get past this… but it hard when you spend a really long time writing a post, and it gets way less attention than a half-assed one.
I do lurk occasionally. Particularly when I find a new blog, but the first post is really heavy, and I feel dirty putting my two cents in already.
I used to seldomly post. Mostly because I wasn’t comfortable with it considering I’ve never been a blogger myself. But now I almost consider it as more “polite” to leave something at some times. As a kind of reward to those people who give me an opportunity to discover something else and enjoy the time spent while reading.
In a way, even though a comment is just a bunch of letters put together, it remains either an encouragement or an acknowledgement of the writer’s effort.
Re Josh Ón Fbook - I think these strangers *thought* I was Josh…like some role playing game or something.
Creepy.
Well I recently delurked. I’ve noticed since I started blogging and commenting, it IS a little more time consuming. At the same time, though, I love getting comments. And I wonder sometimes who is reading my blog (if anybody is) and doesn’t comment. I hope they do comment. So, I feel like I understand both points of view - those that had lurkers, and those that appreciate them.
This is interesting… at first comments meant nothing, really. Then when people I didn’t know started reading, and caring about me, and leaving comments that crack me up… I LIVED FOR THEM. Now though I still care about my stats and getting comments, I might be on the slide that you’ve already traveled it seems- less dependent on comments maybe?
Anyway, I saw you commented on my blog recently. And I read your blog all the time, but rarely leave comments. Soooo I thought I’d leave a comment this time, since you delurked to leave a comment on mine.
This was the most rambling nonsensical comment ever.
I agree with you completely. I’m going through that “Yay, people are leaving comments, I want more” phase. But, when I’ve written a post that I have written because I HAD to write, I don’t really care how many comments I get. It’s just great to get the words out there and comments are just the icing on the cake. Does this make any sense? Its late and I’m tired.
PLUS, Josh Lyman is the SEXIEST fictional character ever! Let me not harp on about all the ways I love The West Wing in general cause we’ll be here for awhile.
I find it hard NOT to appreciate the comments when bloggers seem so kind and encouraging about what is posted… and yet, like you, I sometimes find it hard to be a commentor, or know what to say to a post when I find myself commenting late (even by a day or two) when so many have said it all so beautifully before me. So I totally understand when I see those who read, but don’t comment on mine too.
ooh well said! i have no choice but to lurk when i’m at work…if that! but when so many people have said it…repetition gets lame. even for the post-er who reads through them!
i do the same thing–even with your blog! this is the first time i’ve commented on it, but have been reading it for a while. you definitely have it down in this post–comments are always necessary and i don’t always have anything to add, so why just keep repeating the same thing as everyone else?
Ok, you can have Josh, and I’ll take Rob Lowe’s character. Well actually it’s not his character I want….he can just be quiet and look pretty
I often do not comment on blogs (I read a lot here and there), but I love it when a post makes me really want to comment and incites a lot of conversation.
Jamie- Yep, a lot of the time I don’t comment it’s because I’m on reader. Although, I’m trying to get off of it more and more because I will read a months worth of posts on there and then click on the blog and realize the person has a completely different layout and template and I’m late in commenting on it because I never noticed due to reader.
ValleyGirl- But why do so many people feel like it is?
Julie Q- Yep, it’s funny what will cause a surge in comments, or a decline. I still have no idea. I have noticed that posts with pictures often do better with posts without pictures, but I’m not computer savvy enough to be putting up pictures all the time. (And by computer savvy, I really mean … I’m just sort of lazy.
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Zosia- I completely agree! When you feel like, you have to comment, it’s not as great as a comment.
POTU- Oh, man! I can relate to that. I remember Bre from (Win or Lose, we go shopping!) was the first person to ever link to me. It was so exciting!!
Zosia- Thanks!
PP- Yep, I do the same. Usually though when I find a new blog that I LOVE, I will go and read the archives and find something that I can comment on, rather than jumping head first into a post that is far too ‘intense’ for my first comment. Wow. I’m just realizing how much thought goes into all of this.
gany- That makes complete sense. I think the only problem is people who are just starting out (who the massive internet universe doesn’t know about yet) feel the same way- comments are a reward for great writing. And then when they don’t get as many as they want (based on the fact that no one knows that they wrote anything), they can take it badly. But I do know what you are saying, I think that sums up a lot of the times I DO comment.
HC- Wow, that’s… sort of weird. After I read your comment I typed in “John Krasinski” (from the Office) and there were PAGES of him. One of them must be the real one, but seriously? What are the other people doing??
Miriam D- When I first started blogging I had NO comments. Seriously. I think the only people who commented where my friends (who didn’t blog) because I kept saying that I would quit if I didn’t get comments. Then, I got one guy… from a sports blog who commented. And that was enough. To know that one person was reading it (other than my friends who I guilted into reading), so I get the idea of feeling like… you just want to know that someone is reading. I really do.
Lisa- If it was rambling and nonsensical, I’m proud of myself because I understood everything you said! I think Airam had it right in saying that this is something that everyone goes through, just at different times. I don’t know if it’s based on how long you’ve been blogging, or maybe on what your stats are, but whatever the case it makes me feel a little less crazy to know that so many of you relate to this!
Hope- Makes sense to me. And I’m all about harping on The West Wing, I pretty much thing it’s the greatest thing ever. Or at least, since the invention of velcro.
a life uncommon- It’s funny, I’m with you on the ‘late commenting thing’. I’m getting better about commenting on posts that I missed out on by a few days but there was a time, that if I didn’t comment THE DAY THE POST WAS PUBLISHED, then I felt like I couldn’t comment at all. It’s weird how we all have those little quirks.
libby- Yep, that’s exactly it. And you’re right- sometimes circumstances just prevent you from being able to comment. Oh work, you are such an obstacle!
Miss M- Exactly. Sometimes if I feel like I haven’t commented on a blog in awhile and want the person to know that I’m still reading I will throw out a ‘ditto to what everyone else said’, but I’m with you on not loving the idea of just repeating everyone else.
Ally- Are you referring to the always hot Sam Seaborne? (Although, I didn’t like what he looked like in the last season. His hair was too black, it made him look a bit mean I think). And I’m with you- it’s a good feeling when you read something that you just HAVE TO comment on, regardless if you agree/disagree with what’s being said.
Wow - this one hit home for me because I went through a comment induced euphoria for awhile until it wasn’t a joy to blog anymore - then I decided to blog for me and everything has changed…great post! By the way Josh IS the best..
hmmm i feel like i shouldn’t comment for the sake of agreeing with you. but then i can’t state my opinion lol. i don’t think lurking is insensitive, and you’re right it’s hard when you’re say the 67th commenter and what you wanted to say has alraedy been said 1000 times over. but it’s still nice to see the comment pop up in email isn’t it? i think that’s why i comment as much as i do. because i love the feeling of getting comments and want to spread the love
Sometimes I don’t comment when the post’s too beautifully written. I know, I know, it’s the worst reason. But really, if it’s THAT fabulous, there is nothing in the world I could say that would do it justice and I’d feel like I’m just cheapening it somehow. If that makes any sense at all.
I try to leave well thought-out comments instead of just saying ditto on everything, but with all the blogs I read, sometimes it’s really hard forming a decent, coherent opinion on everything. I’m also finding myself easily turning off comments now… Well, with the unquestionably useless posts anyway. I don’t know what it is with comments, really. I guess blogging is putting too much of oneself out there. Having people comment on a post is like them saying ‘it’s okay, we get you.’ Or something.
This is the first post of yours that I’ve read, and I’m sort of dizzy from all of the “yes, yes, yes”-ing and fierce head nodding I did in agreement of pretty much everything you said.
For arguments sake/to play devil’s advocate, a much creepier sentence is: “I wear crotchless panties to children’s birthday parties.” (Don’t worry, I don’t do this, I was just fulfilling your need for an even creepier sentence, haha).
But, most importantly, I love The West Wing enough that I think I instantly have a bloggy friend crush on you. I don’t mean that I think it’s a good show, a well written and smart show, nothing skin deep like that. What I mean is that I LOVE IT and have watched the entire thing over and over on DVD and every single time it makes me want to sleep with Josh even more.
ps- I’m also a little obsessed with the fact that you know S Club 7. I share your feelings there.
“Lurk the herald Bloggers sing (read)…”
I have no issue with lurkers much to the point you made- sometimes there’s nothing needed to be commented on, or I don’t have something to say. I love to receive thoughts on what I write, but that’s not why I write…I just enjoying sharing my perspective, and happy to know others enjoy it..
I lurk a lot too, but I had to leave a comment on this one, because it’s the first time I’ve read a blog that referenced S Club 7. I’m adding you to my RSS feed. Although, I’ll have to skip over the West Wing references since I’m just starting it. I love Josh too!
I am a guilty lurker. Mostly it’s because I don’t want to sound retarded in a comment, although sometimes it’s because everything has already been said. But even though I don’t comment (although I will try to be better!), I do love reading your posts!
prepare yourself as i totally contradict myself…
I usually shy away from commenting on sites that get 20+ comments. I lurk on those. But I try to show a little love to those who have the 0 comments, or just a few, because I feel like it will matter more to them. Seriously, how can I person get through 95 comments on one post? And if I really had something to say, then I just get afraid it will be lost in the fray.
As for my own blog, I get a little nervous when the comment count gets too high, or even when my counter says I had like 200 visitors. I’m flattered as all get out, but still nervous like “who are all these people? will they judge me if they keep reading?” and plus I try to go visit their site and comment back and it’s a huge circle of commenting, and then I get no work done at work.
But here I am commenting on a 40+ comment post, so maybe I’m just a bumbling fool.
Oh.My.God. Get out of my head!!! I was mentally composing an entry about this same thing last week!!!
I read all of the blogs on my blog roll every day. Mostly. I only comment when I have something I just have to say, though. Sometimes, I feel like people think if you leave a comment on their page, they’re compelled to leave a comment on yours, so that’s one of the reasons for my lack of commenting at times. I’m sensitive to the ‘obligation’ thing, and don’t want to initiate it, even unintentionally.
I agree; sometimes I don’t have anything left to say because 44 commenters above me have said it all… but I try (and fail) to at least say something to let people know that I’m reading and enjoying.
And not paying attention in class. OH NOES.
I used to not care about getting comments (though that is not to say that I don’t deeply appreciate them to the point I want to put them on my holiday shopping list), but then I got like 3 comments on one of my recent posts. Then I started caring. I’m thinking it’s just a coincidence…
PE- I’m glad you’re feeling better about it all, and that you understand the greatness that is Josh. (Okay, it’s to the point now that I actually let out a big sigh of happiness when I type his name).
Michelle- That’s true. The new comments in the email is always something to be enjoyed. You raise a good point!
The Lisa Show- I get that. The idea of not wanting to comment on something that you love so much. I usually bookmark those babies and then go and re-read them like a stalker. Once I’ve got my fill, I like to send out a link to it, so others can stalk the post (I’m thoughtful like that sometimes). But the idea of not wanting to leave a mark on something you’ve enjoyed? I understand.
Nicole- Yep! I think that’s an even creepier sentence, well done friend, well done! As for the West Wing, well you got my email. You know where I stand. (And the ’streets in heaven are crowded with angels’ is one of my favourite moments EVER. Also, when Josh talks to the woman about her STar Trek pin. That’s so classic.)
Evans- Well put. Now, can you change all the lyrics to fit my post? If you do that I think you might reach the always coveted hero status.
Elisabeth- I love that an S Club 7 was what clinched the deal. I’m so glad I picked them instead of O-town….
Maggie- No pressure to comment. I’m all about the lurking, so if you just want to lurk, lurk away friend! But thanks for leaving a comment on this post. I was really interested in what other people thought about lurking.
Tiff- I completely understand that. I think the mental process I have when I skip over a post that’s popular and leave a few comments on one that is less so is ‘where is my comment going to be really appreciated?’. Of course I know the person with 20+ comments is going to LOVE the comment, but I just think to that one person who isn’t getting a lot, it’s going to mean even more. I think about the first comments I got and I could tell you which posts and who said them. It was that big of deal. So I understand.
SWF42- I get that. But then, I just commented on your post about people who don’t know when to be quiet. Let me be clear, you are not obligated to respond with another comment. We don’t have to roll that way.
Carrie- Yep, I agree comment #45 is a hard one to pull off but you did it. Congratulations!
MC- Yeah, I understand that. I think though, a person can drive themselves crazy thinking about why one post got so many comments and another one didn’t. Hey, have you figured out google reader yet?
you asked…here it is….
Lurk! The heralded blogger laments
On occasion, surfers please comment!
It takes time to write these things,
Don’t always fly by on silent wings.
Lurkers within the blosphere exiled?
Bloggers, lurkers- reconcile!
Joyful all ye who compose,
Comments are an option, I suppose.
Let us all co-exist and rejoice
Praise the medium that gives us a voice!
Oh so true, Brandy! I don’t mind the lurkers all that much because, well, I know I lurk blogs myself!!! Feed readers save my sanity, hah.
Another thing I that admire so much is how you always manage to reply back to everyone’s comments! WOW. I mean, I’ve been getting more recently and it’s hard to keep up with everything since I like to write more than one sentence when responding to comments. Seriously, you are amazing.
Writing for myself is undoubtedly important, but I often get lazy…I think interacting the blogging community has def. helped me continue to write. It’s a delicate balance between writing for yourself and others.
Evans- Congratulations. You have reached hero status. And may just be my favourite person of the day.
Joanne- Feed readers. I hear that term and I know I should understand what it’s all about but I don’t think I do. Eep! As for replying to comments, thanks for your compliment- it’s definitely more work but I know I always like it when my comment gets some sort of feedback. Besides, lots of times I get to say stuff in my comment replies that I wanted to say in my post but just didn’t have time/room/a creative urge to say in my post. So… I guess it’s a bit selfish too.
Sorry I’m a bit late Miss Brandy, I was too busy lurking
I know exactly what you mean re: comments. Somehow I once lost my way, and found the weight of my posts to be an equation of how many comments I have. I try not to look at it like that now - I try to blog because I want to, not because I have to see the little numbers clock up.
Hey there,
Randomly stumbled upon your blog and while I would NORMALLY not leave a comment (lurkers, unite!), I felt compelled. I’m actually new to blogspot (I was a xanga fiend for years) so I had no idea it was so rude of me to read and leave without a trace! Thanks for filling me in on the proper etiquette, and great blog!
Arielle
Yippee! In that case, I’ll put on my wondertwins ring and take the form of Peter Petrelli (sans the DUMBASS decisions he made last night)
Cracks me up that you have 50-something comments on this post.
Really I just wanted to say that Josh Lyman? Le. Swoon.
Too true dahling! I come by every day and lurke… and I hardly ever comment but love every single post for what they are. Awesome and beautifully written.
Not quite the 67th commentor, but somewhere there. *grin*
Well, my point here is, i agree with you - totally. I am a lurker too and i don’t see a point in commenting if i don’t have anything to say.
Rosanna- Ahh lady, I’m so late on posts all the time, never feel the need to apologize! Anyway, it’s nice to know that so many people feel that they can relate to this. It’s so bizarre how comments can get out of control, isn’t??
Arielle- Thanks for stopping by! And I don’t think it’s rude at all for reading and not commenting, I do believe that lurking is fine. So go ahead and lurk if you want. I will be checking your site out soon!
Evans- DONT tell me what’s going on! I’m waiting for the season to come out on DVD. But I did see he got a great haircut…
cdp- Yep, I love him. I just watched the one where he tells Joey that he wore the hot suit for her. It was so damn lovely.
Jasmine- Thank you friend. That means a lot. I got to love the lurkers!
Bungi- Thanks for your comment, I like hearing what everyone has to say on this one…
I’m a lurker! and also an enjoyer of your writing, and I have bad grammar. Thus the lurking.
very interesting, but I don’t agree with you
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